Community Guidelines

The kind of place we want this to be
Principles we run on
What makes a good profile here
What gets in the way
How moderation actually works
Our side of the deal
When something feels off
A final note

These are our community guidelines: the spirit behind the rules, not the rules themselves. The formal rules live in our Terms of Service, and safety details live on the Safety page. This page is for the stuff in between: what sort of place we're trying to build, what we expect from the people using it, and what they can expect from us.

Keep it close to hand. The more people treat each other the way this page describes, the better the whole Site gets for everyone.

1. THE KIND OF PLACE WE WANT THIS TO BE

sextflirt.com is where adults find people to sext with. It's a place to show who you are with a Blush avatar, a bio, and a status, find people who are into the same things, and take the conversation to the app you both use, or talk right away in our public sext chat room.

It is not an argument, a marketplace, a casting couch, a hunting ground, or someone's 1-on-1 inbox. It's a public square for grown-ups who understand that anything they post is, well, public.

The short version of the vibe:

Come for people, not content. Everyone here is looking for someone to talk to. Give them a reason to add you.
Treat strangers like future regulars. The person scrolling past your profile today might add you tomorrow. How you show up matters.
Be the user who, if everyone behaved like you, would make sextflirt feel welcoming. If that's obviously not you today, leave the comment unposted.

2. PRINCIPLES WE RUN ON

The rules in the Terms of Service can be derived from five principles. If you internalise these, you'll almost never bump into the enforcement layer.

Consent is the floor, not the ceiling. Nobody's name, username, or personal details get posted without their consent. That includes screenshots of conversations, someone else's handle, AI-generated versions of real people, everything. Whether something is "technically legal" is the wrong question; whether everyone involved is on board is the right one.

Adults only. This one is non-negotiable. Any content involving a minor, any suggestion a minor is involved, any attempt to frame someone as younger than they are, is a zero-tolerance bar. Report on sight.

Honesty, always. The usernames you share are yours. Your bio and status describe you, not someone you're pretending to be. Your comments are something you'd stand behind. If that sounds exhausting, you're probably overthinking a scam.

Respect is cheap and mandatory. Harassment, hate, piling on someone in comments, pressuring strangers, punching down at other users' looks, race, gender, body, country, or identity, is out. You don't have to like every profile. You don't even have to leave a comment. Scrolling past is free.

Effort is its own reward. Copy-pasted statuses, spam comments, and AI slop pretending to be a real person make the whole Site worse. A real status, even a short one, stands out.

3. WHAT MAKES A GOOD PROFILE HERE

We don't grade profiles, and we don't want sextflirt to feel like a competition. But if you're asking yourself what "good" looks like on the Site, here are the signals we see in profiles that work.

It's you. Your Blush, your bio, and your status say something true about who you are and what you're into.
The status tells people something. One honest sentence about your mood beats a line of emojis or a copy-pasted pitch. Statuses are where personality lives.
Your interests match what you're actually into. Accurate interests make search work. Ticking everything breaks it.
The platform you're pointing at is actually yours and actually active. Nothing breaks trust faster than clicking through to a dead handle.
It's paced. A profile that comments on twenty profiles in a minute and then goes silent for a month reads like a bot. Showing up regularly reads like a person.
Comments and gifts are for one person. Say something to them, or send a gift if you mean it. Dropping the same line on every profile is spam.
Your handle has its own spot. Your platform username already sits on your profile with the Add button. Phone numbers, handles, and links don't go in statuses or comments, and they get blocked there.
Boost when you're around. A boost puts you at the top of the list with your status and mood. Boost, then answer the people who add you.
In the chat room, the whole room is reading. Everything you type is public, so no personal details, no ads, no flooding.

None of these are tricks. They're just what a real person looks like on a site full of strangers.

4. WHAT GETS IN THE WAY

The quick summary of what gets content removed or accounts suspended. For the comprehensive list, go read Terms of Service §5.

Minors, in any form, any representation, any context.
Non-consensual intimate imagery and deepfakes of real people.
Content that promotes sex trafficking, escort services, or prostitution.
Scams, phishing, "I'll show you if you pay the verification fee" setups, crypto bait, sextortion.
Automation and bots pretending to be people.
Contact details or paid offers pushed into statuses, comments, or chat.
Impersonation, catfishing, using someone else's name or username.
Harassment, threats, targeted abuse, hate speech.
Posting that is obviously illegal under applicable law.

None of these is a judgement call for us. If you find any of it, report it.

5. HOW MODERATION ACTUALLY WORKS

We try to be transparent about this because "trust us" is a thing we ask of every user, and we want to deserve it.

Profile text is checked automatically when it's written or changed, looking for the things nobody wants on the Site.
Statuses and comments with phone numbers, handles, or links are blocked before they're posted.
User reports go into a queue that a human actually reads. The queue prioritises urgent things (minor-related, non-consensual, active extortion) first.
When we remove something, we try to remove it fast, even if that means acting on partial information and sorting out edge cases afterwards.
We don't shadow-ban people for disagreeing with us, for liking the wrong things, or for writing things we personally find boring. Moderation is about rule violations, not taste.
Severe violations are terminal. There is no warning, no appeal, no conversation about context. We would rather be wrong on the side of removing a legitimate user than tolerate a genuine predator for a second longer than necessary.

We won't always get the call right. When we don't, tell us.

6. OUR SIDE OF THE DEAL

You're trusting us with your profile, your account, and a piece of your online presence. In return:

We won't sell your personal data. Not to brokers, not to advertisers, not to affiliate networks dressed up as "partners."
We won't run behavioural ad profiles on you. We use analytics to understand what works on the Site, not to follow you around the internet.
We won't hide or bury your content silently. If we take action on something you posted, you'll know something happened, even if it's just a comment or status disappearing.
We won't demand money from real people trying to reach real support. There is no premium tier, no paywall to remove a slander, no "verification fee," no account revival fee. Any message claiming otherwise is a scam and we want to hear about it.
We'll act fast on anything that endangers a real person. That's the one class of problem we optimise response time for over everything else.
We'll keep this page and the Safety page up to date as the Site changes. When something moves, the documentation moves with it.

7. WHEN SOMETHING FEELS OFF

You don't have to wait until a rule is clearly broken. If something on sextflirt feels wrong, report the profile or use our content removal form and tell us. Reports are how we learn about stuff the automated layer misses, and they're how we find patterns we'd otherwise never see.

If it's a safety issue specifically, the Safety page walks through what to do for the most common situations, including what to do if something harmful has already happened.

For legal process (DMCA takedowns specifically), use the DMCA page.

For everything else, our contact form is the fastest way to reach the team that actually handles these messages.

8. A FINAL NOTE

This page is a promise, not a wall of rules. The goal isn't to police every keystroke; it's to describe the kind of place we're trying to run and the kind of users we're trying to attract.

If you're here because you want to find people to sext with, be honest about who you are and what you're into, and treat strangers the way you'd want to be treated on a site like this, you're in the right place. Welcome aboard.

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